15 Clear Signs an Aries Man Is Using You

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If you have a sneaking suspicion that you have spotted signs an Aries man is using you, it may not be all in your head.

While Aries men are charming and passionate lovers and partners, they are also very self-motivated. That means if your needs are at odds with his, he may go with his own agenda instead of yours.

It can be frustrating to be in a relationship with someone who may not be as committed as you are. I’ve been in this situation before, and it’s not pretty when you’re trying to give your all to an Aries who just doesn’t seem to reciprocate.

So, to save you some trouble, I’m going to share 15 clear signs that your Aries man is using you. This way, you can steer clear of heartache and know for sure whether your relationship is worth pursuing or not.

15 Clear Signs an Aries Man Is Using You

Here are 15 telltale signs that your Aries man is using you:

1. He Cancels Plans at the Last Minute

If your Aries man is constantly canceling plans with you at the last minute, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t value your time together. He may say he had to work late or that something came up unexpectedly, but the truth is, he just doesn’t want to spend time with you.

If it happens once or twice, it may just be a fluke, but if it’s a regular occurrence, it’s time to move on.

2. He Won’t Spend Time With Your Friends or Family

There are two reasons why you Aries man won’t spend time with your friends or family. The first is that he’s trying to keep you all to himself. He knows that if he spends time with people who are important to you, he’ll have to share you with them.

The second reason is that he’s not interested in getting to know the people who are important to you. This is a clear sign that he’s not interested in a long-term relationship.

3. You’re Constantly Doing Him Favors

You’ll know if an Aries man is using you if you’re constantly doing him favors with no reciprocation. He may ask you to foot the bill after dinner or to help him move without offering to help you in return.

He may also take advantage of your kindness by asking for favors that are outside of your comfort zone. If you feel like your Aries man is making you do things for him that are ethically or morally questionable, it’s time to walk away.

You deserve a partner who will treat you with respect and equality, not someone who uses you for their own gain.

4. He Cleverly Avoids the “Girlfriend” Term

Do you think you’re in a relationship with an Aries man, but notice that he never uses the “G” word?

This is a classic sign that he’s using you for convenience. He knows that if he labels you as his girlfriend, it means he has to commit to you and make an effort in the relationship.

Instead, he’ll keep things vague by saying things like “you’re special to me” or “I care about you.” He wants to have his cake and eat it too.

Or maybe he calls you his special someone in private, but suddenly introduces you as “just a friend” in public. This is a clear sign that he’s not ready to make things official and is still playing the field.

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5. He Has Wandering Eyes

Aries men are known for their high libidos and insatiable sexual appetites. But when they’re committed to someone, they’re usually willing to settle into monogamy.

If you notice that your Aries man has wandering eyes, it’s a sign that he’s not satisfied with what you have to offer. He may even flirt with other women right in front of you or try to start an affair.

You may also see him flirting with other women on social media sites or in person. This is downright disrespectful and a clear sign an Aries man is using you.

6. He Picks On You

When an Aries man takes a woman for granted, he will start to pick on her. He may criticize your appearance or the way you dress. He may also make fun of your intelligence or interests.

This is a clear sign that he doesn’t see you as his equal and is trying to find ways to bring you down. He’s using his natural competitiveness as a way to control and manipulate you with small microaggressions.

He may say things like “you’re too sensitive” or “can’t you take a joke?” But the truth is, he’s just trying to gaslight you into thinking that his behavior is normal.

It’s not, and this usually means that your Aries man is taking advantage of you.

7. He Blames You For Everything

Do you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells with your Aries man? Does it seem like you’re never good enough or that you can never please him?

If so, it’s likely because he’s constantly blaming you for everything that goes wrong in his life. This is a form of emotional manipulation and control. Aries men can have a fiery temperament, and they may lash out at you when they’re feeling angry or frustrated.

This isn’t something an Aries man would do to someone he respected or cared about. It’s a sign that he’s using you as a punching bag to take out his own frustrations and anger.

8. He Only Talks About Himself

When you’re in a relationship with an Aries, you’ll soon learn that the Aries man loves to talk about himself. But as you’re spending more time together, he will naturally become more curious about your life and interests.

If you’ve been dating an Aries guy for a while and he still doesn’t know the basics about you such as your favorite color or food, or even what you do at your job, it’s a sign that he is just using you to stroke his ego.

When you share about yourself, you may notice that he interrupts you, changes the subject or starts talking about himself. This is a clear sign that he’s not interested in getting to know you on a deeper level.

9. He Takes Complete Control

Aries is one of the most dominant zodiac signs, so this guy will definitely need to get his way most of the time.

But if he’s taking complete control over every aspect of your relationship, it’s a sign that he doesn’t trust you to make decisions on your own. He may want to control what you wear, who you talk to, and where you go.

He may also try to control how you spend your money or dictate what you can and cannot do. This is a form of emotional abuse and a sign that the Aries man is playing games with you. He’s not considering you, but rather enjoying the feeling of power and control he gets from ruling over you.

Some tactics he may use to assert control over a situation include making you fearful, shaming you, or even threatening you. These are all signs that he’s using you for his own gain and not considering your feelings or needs.

10. You Catch Him in Little Lies

You’ll know that your Aries man is using you if you start to notice inconsistencies in his stories. He may tell you one thing and then do another.

For example, he may say that he’ll call you later but then never call. Or, he may make plans with you but then cancel at the last minute without a good reason. These little white lies are a way for him to keep you off balance and guessing what his true intentions are.

It’s also a way for him to keep you from getting too close to him. The more you know about him, the easier it would be for you to see through his facade and realize that he’s not being genuine to you.

11. He Ignores You When You’re Out Together

Does your Aries man act aloof and distant when you’re in public? It may make you feel like you’re invisible or that he’s not interested in you.

But the truth is, he’s just trying to keep up his image. An Aries man is all about appearances and being seen as a strong, alpha male. And if he’s not really committed to you, he doesn’t want people to know that you’re together.

So if you’re out at a party or event and he’s ignoring you, it’s a sign that he’s using you for his own social gain. He wants to be seen as the single, eligible bachelor who’s got all the ladies vying for his attention.

12. He’s Only Affectionate When He Needs Something

Is your Aries man hot and cold? Does he brush you off one day, and then act sweet the next, when he needs something? This is a big red flag that he’s using you.

When Aries men are in love, they can’t pump the breaks on their feelings. So, if your guy is inconsistent and only affectionate when he needs or wants something from you, it’s a sign that he doesn’t really love you.

13. He Doesn’t Respond to Your Texts or Calls

Sometimes Aries men can be forgetful when it comes to sending a quick message back. This is because they’re all over the place and their minds are always racing.

But if he’s regularly ignoring your texts or calls, he may not be that into you. Especially if you’re quick to get back to him when he contacts you, or he’s impatient if you don’t reply right away.

It’s a one-way street with this guy, and you’re always the one doing all the work to keep in touch. This may mean that he doesn’t intend to pursue the relationship much further, and it may be best to move on.

14. You’ve Never Met His Friends or Family

Do you feel like your Aries man is keeping you a secret from his family and friends? Well, that means he probably is. Aries men are very social and love to be surrounded by their loved ones.

So, if he’s never introduced you to the people who are important to him, it may be because he doesn’t see you as being a part of his future.

If you’ve been dating an Aries guy for more than a few months and you’re still not sure whether he’s introduced you to anyone important in his life, take it as a sign that he might be using you.

15. He’s Only Interested in Sex

An Aries man can make you feel like you’re the only woman in the world when you’re in bed with him. So it can be easy to get caught up in the throws of ecstasy and ignore other red flags in a relationship.

Does your Aries man only promise you a future when he’s in the mood? Does he use sexual advances to deflect from relationship issues? These are signs that he doesn’t want to take the relationship further.

You may also notice that he becomes very detached after physical intimacy, and doesn’t have much to offer emotionally once those needs have been satisfied.

This definitely means it’s time to move on to someone who will appreciate all of you, not just use you for a good time.

Do Aries Play Mindgames?

Of course they do! They love nothing more than a good challenge, and if that challenge is getting under your skin and making you second-guess yourself, then they’re all for it.

But there are limits to what an Aries will do in the name of fun – they’re not sadists, after all. Sometimes these games are done in jest, but other times, he may take it too far.

So if you think your Aries man is playing mind games with you, ask yourself whether he’s doing it to:

  • Get a reaction from you
  • See how far he can push you before you snap
  • Keep things interesting between you
  • Test your boundaries
  • Teach you a lesson

If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then it’s time to have a serious talk with your Aries man. Mind games are only fun when both parties are enjoying them – and if you’re not, then he needs to knock it off.

But if you are enjoying the game, then go ahead and play along. Just be prepared for anything, because an Aries man will always, always, come out on top in the end. Even if this means walking away because he can’t cope with losing.

The best situation is to turn the game into a win-win. Let him know that you respect his intellect and enjoy being challenged by him. And if he can do that without making you feel like a pawn in his chess game, then everyone’s happy.

Signs an Aries Man Is Not Interested Anymore

Aries men move fast, which means that they may be over a relationship right when you think things are beginning to heat up. Here are some signs that your Aries man is not interested anymore:

  • He’s less affectionate with you
  • He isn’t interested in fixing issues in the relationship
  • He doesn’t want emotional or physical intimacy anymore
  • He spends his time hanging with friends and family instead of you
  • He ghosts you for days or weeks at a time
  • He tells you he’s not interested in a relationship
  • He introduces you as a friend instead of a girlfriend

If any of these things are happening, it’s possible that your Aries guy is thinking about leaving the relationship. But the best way to know if this is true or not is by asking him.

Aries men are pretty straightforward, so he will likely tell you if he’s not interested.

How to Beat an Aries Man at His Own Game

As mentioned above, the world’s a stage, and an Aries man will always try to be the leading man. But what happens when you want to take control and beat him at his own game?

Well, if done correctly, you can make an Aries man realize that he’s met his own match. He’ll give you the respect you deserve and play more fairly if you show him you can keep up with his games.

Here are a few ways to beat an Aries man at his own game:

  • Be spontaneous in your actions. Don’t let him know what you’re going to do next.
  • Be honest about your feelings and thoughts. He’ll appreciate your bluntness.
  • Make sure you’re always challenging him. Mentally and physically
  • Be confident in yourself and your abilities. This will make it harder for him to manipulate you.
  • Never back down from a challenge. An Aries man loves a good fight

By following these tips, you’ll be able to hold your own against an Aries man. He may not like losing, but he’ll respect you more if you can beat him at his own game.

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The Bottom Line

Nobody wants to be used, least of all by the person they’re in a relationship with. But if you think your Aries man is using you, don’t be afraid to confront him about it.

Learning more about the Aries man’s behavior can also help you avoid getting used by him. So take your research a step further and check out the Aries Man Secrets guide.

This guide will teach you everything you need to know about Aries men, from their loves and desires to their fears and weaknesses.

With this knowledge, you can avoid getting used by your Aries man and instead have a healthy and happy relationship with him.

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A 27-year-old Sagittarius looking for love in all the wrong places. A good friend’s advice led to a deep dive into astrology. I created Zodiac Daters to share my newly gained knowledge with the world in an attempt to help other women avoid the pitfalls of dating, relationships, break ups, and sex.