The Cancer Man: Nurturing and Passionately Emotional

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The Cancer man, like the ebbs and flows of the moon, is a mysterious and multifaceted soul. He’s a deeply emotional individual, and Cancers tend to let their intuition lead their lives.

Learn what makes the Cancer man turn into a nurturing sensitive being, as well as his triggers, which will make him retreat deeply into his shell. Once you understand the complexity of this water sign, you’ll learn how to best appreciate with love the Cancer man.

So let’s get started – from his personality strengths to his romantic leanings, we’ll cover it all in this complete guide.

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About Cancer Man
Birthday DatesJune 21 – July 22
Ruling PlanetMoon
KeywordsIntuitive, Intelligent, Passionate, Emotional
Lucky DaysMonday
GemstoneRuby, Pearl
Ruling Body PartStomach, Chest

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Cancer Man Personality Traits and Characteristics

The Cancer man certainly possesses both good and bad traits, and you may even see him switch between the two in a matter of minutes. This deeply sensitive zodiac sign can change his demeanor depending on the subtle energies of the surrounding environment.

Here are some of the positive and negative characteristics of the enigmatic Cancer man:

Good Traits:

  • Deeply empathetic: The emotional cancer man almost has a superpower when it comes to picking up on other people’s realities. It’s natural and easy for him to picture the perspectives of others. 
  • Fiercely loyal: Cancer men love their friends, family, and partners, with all of their heart. Because of this, he will stand by his community’s side, through thick and thin.
  • Ever-nurturing: The cancer guy is an expert caretaker. From checking in about the feelings of others to providing a warm cup of tea, you can expect to be taken care of in his presence.
  • Naturally artistic: The cancer man sees the world as a poetic landscape. He’s also a fantastic problem solver that utilizes unique perspectives.

Bad Traits:

  • Regularly moody: The Cancer man’s personality is very erratic. Nearly every day, it’s likely that his mood will shift, and he may express anger or retreat in these moments.
  • Easily triggered: Due to this man’s deep sensitivity, it’s bigger him, and he may take it personally if you make a comment that rubs him the wrong way.
  • Overly attached: Although this sign is very loyal, sometimes this can spill over to the unhealthy realm of possessiveness and judge them for spending time away or with other people.
  • Too cautious: Cancer men are apprehensive when it comes to taking risks. This may lead to a fixed mindset that blocks opportunities for growth.

Understanding A Cancer Man

Getting to know the Cancer man is like putting a complicated puzzle together. There are plenty of seemingly disconnected pieces. But with dedication and deep consideration, you can construct a complete picture of his persona.

Let’s break down each of the main aspects of a Cancer man’s life to understand how he behaves in different situations.

Cancer Man Behavior

Most cancer men are very reserved when you first meet them. This doesn’t mean that he will necessarily be cold. In fact, he may even have a warm disposition. But he will be more observant at first, listening to what you have to say more than sharing his own thoughts.

If he’s in a bad mood, he will likely act guarded. He uses this as self-defense in order to protect his heart from any potential hurt. This isn’t a conscious decision, but rather an instinctive response.

Cancer Man Likes and Dislikes

Above all else, cancer men love their home, their family, and their inner community. They spend most of their time reinforcing and nurturing their familiar environments. They also put a high value on open communication and emotional availability.

They like to regularly check in with others, gauging their comfort zone, their feelings, and their thoughts.

As for likes and dislikes, Cancer men are averse to quick or dramatic changes in their life.

They want things to stay as predictable and consistent as possible and may feel a loss of control if they feel that the rug has been pulled out from under their feet.

They also struggle with loud, brash, and insensitive people who take up a lot of space with their personalities.

Not only do they easily tire of this kind of behavior, but it can also hurt their very sensitive heart and minimize their feelings of worthiness when they’re in the shadows of others.

Cancer Man Family Life

Cancer man family life

Family means everything to the Cancer man. From fitting into his family as a child to starting one of his own, he sees it as a paramount responsibility in life. The Cancer dad sees himself as the caretaker.

He loves to help his children develop a strong sense of family values that guide them toward emotional resilience. He doesn’t make them feel bad for their feelings. Instead, he engages in deep conversations and takes them seriously.

On an emotional level, he will be capable of connecting with his children in good and bad times, at any age of their life. His kids will come to rely on him for his deep emotional intelligence and ability to weather the storms of life.

However, since he has a deep emotional understanding of the world, he will have many moody and shadowy days. If he can’t manage his own emotions, it may make his family walk on eggshells, fearful to trigger his anger or disapproval.

He will need to learn how to place his emotions aside so that he can allow for everyone in the family to have their own point of view and leave room for each other’s growth.

Cancer Man Friendships

There isn’t a more loyal friend than the male Cancer. This sun sign assigns a lot of sentimental value to his friendships and loves to reminisce on his former glory days with them. If you become friends with this man, it will likely be a lifelong companionship.

These loyal partners are also very resourceful and are happy to help you in a pinch. From helping to move you into a new home to checking in on your mental health, there’s no topic that’s off-limits for receiving support.

Since this man likes to help keep any tradition alive in friendship, he may be hesitant to change. For example, if his friend needs to relocate for a new job, he may be easily wounded by the thought of being abandoned.

The key is patience with change when it comes to this sun sign. The Cancer man wants to get on the same emotional level as his friends, it just takes him a bit of extra time to do so.

Cancer Man Career

Cancer man career

As the natural caretaker of the zodiac, this man excels in roles where he is in a supporting role. This can show up as a direct responsibility of his job or may be a soft skill he uses to significantly improve the work culture.

These men are also laser-focused workhorses when they feel passionate about the work they do, so it’s important that they find a career that emotionally and spiritually speaks to them.

Cancer men often enjoy careers such as:

  • Hospice assistant
  • Nurse or doctor
  • Writer
  • Academic
  • Visual artist
  • Counselor
  • Social worker
  • Grant writer
  • Non-profit organizer
  • Religious leader

It’s important to keep in mind that Cancer men don’t do well in volatile, extremely fast-paced, or unkind work environments.

For example, working in a high-paced environment like a busy restaurant or in a high-pressure financial sector may result in too many hurt feelings for this emotionally sensitive sign.

Cancer Men and Money

Cancer men tend to be thoughtful and responsible with their money. He feels threatened when he’s financially unstable and doesn’t mind delaying gratification for future wealth.

When it comes to sharing finances with others, such as in the case of a relationship, it may take a good amount of time to trust another person enough to share accounts or budgets.

This by no means is to say that he isn’t generous with his money. In fact, he would probably prefer to buy a gift for someone or make a donation rather than lend it or split expenses 50/50.

But it does create an added layer of trust that needs to be present before he feels comfortable in a financial situation.

Cancer Man In Love and Relationships

Cancer man in love and relationships

When a Cancer man falls in love, it means that he is deeply connected to his partner. These water signs are incredibly romantic and daydream about going to the furthest depths when it comes to a longterm relationship.

Their true emotions can be slow moving, so he may not fall head over heels at first sight, or even after the first date. But the deep love will cultivate with time, consistency, and enough emotional compatibility.

Here are a few other aspects of the Cancer man in love to keep in mind:

Cancer Man Likes and Dislikes in a Woman

Cancers appreciate women who can understand and hold compassion for their emotions. They don’t like to be rushed, or told not to express their feelings. An ideal partner actively listens and relates to their Cancer man.

She could also make thoughtful gestures like drawing him a warm bath or offering him a massage on a stressful day.

Since the Cancer is subject to many mood changes, a partner who can soothe him with understanding and love can be a powerful anchor.

The Cancer man dislikes partners who are too wild, unreliable, or inconsistent. The wilder the partner is, the harder it will be for the Cancer to establish trust and intimacy. This sun sign also has a low tolerance for deceit, lying, and manipulation.

How do Cancer Men Act When They Like a Girl?

When the Cancer man has a strong emotional connection with a woman, he focuses all of his attention and energy on the relationship.

He’ll share his innermost feelings and become intensely curious about his partner’s interests, passions, and life experiences. This is the clearest sign that a Cancer man has feelings for you.

This man loves to dote upon his partners and is a true romantic. From cooking her delicious foods to wooing her with romantic love notes, he’ll try his best to put her in a good mood and make her feel secure.

However, he may act insecure at times, since he often feels vulnerable and exposed when falling in love. He may run at the first sign of disinterest if he’s particularly uncertain about your feelings.

So make sure to let him know your feelings as well if you want to move forward romantically with him.

Why a Cancer Man Ignores You

Almost every time, a Cancer will start ignoring his significant other because he’s been emotionally attacked or misunderstood. When he doesn’t feel empowered in this way, he naturally retreats.

Here are a few other reasons why this water sign may step away from the relationship:

  • He’s overwhelmed: If things don’t move at the speed that a Cancer is comfortable with, he may need to pull back as a way to rebalance and gather his thoughts.
  • He needs privacy: These water signs can be very private, and if he’s spending all of his time with a partner, he may need space down the line.
  • He’s testing you: The silent treatment may be one way that your Cancer man tests you in a relationship. He’s trying to see if you’re really interested in the relationship and will put in the effort to get his attention.
  • He’s feeling resentful: Cancers don’t often express their hurt, and it’s second nature for them to push negative feelings down. This may manifest in him suddenly closing down or avoiding you instead of processing his feelings.
  • He’s unsure of his feelings: Unfortunately, his avoidance may be a sign that he isn’t sure if he’s into you or not. Since this sign’s emotions move slowly, he may need some space to sort out his feelings.

It can be hurtful when a Cancer man ignores you. But remember, he may be feeling private one day and in a good mood the next. So hopefully he won’t withhold communication for too long.

How to Deal with Cancer Man Mood Swings?

It can be hard to cope with the bad moods and outright temper tantrums that Cancer men bring into the relationship. This is especially true for other sensitive signs such as Pisces or another Cancer who find themselves in a relationship with this man.

But there are a few things you can do to lessen the emotional drama in this relationship:

  • Set firm boundaries and walk away when he crosses them.
  • Refrain from criticizing him for how he feels.
  • Offer empathy and compassion for his experience.
  • Take space, but establish a time you’ll come back, so he doesn’t feel abandoned.
  • Make sure to soothe yourself during a Cancer’s mood swing. Take a walk, connect with a friend, or enjoy a book. Don’t let his bad mood overshadow your own needs.

And of course, feel free to ask your moody Cancer man what you can do to help him feel better in the relationship. You’ll form a strong bond with him if you show that you’re there to help bring him to a positive place.

Best Match for the Cancer Man

The Taurus woman is a wonderful match for the Cancer man.

These two zodiac signs have a deep sense of loyalty and enjoy a secure and stable lifestyle.

Worst Match for the Leo Man

The poorest match for the Cancer is the Aries woman. Her independent and fiery nature is too feisty for the Cancer man’s personality.

Furthermore, the Aries woman can have a bad temper, which can lead to a lot of conflict in relationships with this water sign.

Cancer Man Secrets

There’s more to the Cancer man than just his outward experience. His rich and emotional inner world can be quite a surprise for the right partner.

If you want to learn more about the world of the Cancer man, grab your copy of Cancer Man Secrets. This complete guide will teach you everything you need to know about this sign as well as provide actionable advice for communicating and connecting with him.

With a bit of studying, practice, and compassion, a deep connection with a Cancer man is just around the corner.  

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A 27-year-old Sagittarius looking for love in all the wrong places. A good friend’s advice led to a deep dive into astrology. I created Zodiac Daters to share my newly gained knowledge with the world in an attempt to help other women avoid the pitfalls of dating, relationships, break ups, and sex.