If you are dating a Virgo man, then he is probably one of the most analytical people you’ve been with.
A Virgo man will test you by asking questions. His primary interest is to understand who you are and what motivates you. Be prepared for some pretty intense conversations! Since Virgo is an earth sign, he will want to feel grounded and secure with you, so he feels the need to have a firm grasp on who you are.
The Virgo Man has an eye for detail and is always looking to make improvements in his life. As such, he will not be shy about testing you. This doesn’t mean that it’s time to panic. Rather, keep in mind that he cares for you and is focused on developing a deeper relationship.
Read on to learn more about how a Virgo man will test you so that you aren’t caught off-guard by this behavior.
How Does a Virgo Man Test You?
A Virgo man will likely test you during the early phases of dating. These tests may also come up when the relationship is about to get serious. This process helps him to feel secure in his growing feelings for you.
As a Sagittarius who is quite blunt, I’ve had no issues with Virgo’s direct questions. However, I know this can be challenging for some other astrological personalities and may even feel like an attack.
Remember that the Virgo man’s nature is one of nurturing, caring, and supporting others in life. While his tests may feel critical, he is actually making sure that he knows you well enough to offer emotional support, respect, and love.
1. Deep Questioning
Virgos are a mutable sign, which means that they like to figure people out by negotiating with them. Questions are a great way for the Virgo man to do this.
A Virgo man may ask you everything from your thoughts on politics and religion to the kind of foods you like. He wants to know how he can best support you, so it’s crucial that he gets a good understanding of these things early on.
The best way to handle this is to keep your answers simple and honest. Don’t try too hard to impress him. Saying what you think he wants to hear or withholding information that may negatively impact the relationship down the line.
If you’re feeling pressured by all of the questions, the best thing to do is to ask him plenty of questions as well. He will understand that this is a mutual process and is happy to share his perspective as well.
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2. Comparing Personal Values
Virgo men take great pride in their values and want to be around people who share them. As such, he wants you to understand your values before the relationship goes any further.
These men tend to value intelligence, practicality, and intuition. You may be tested on how you feel about these qualities as well as other personal values such as morality.
Don’t worry if you don’t have the exact same interests or approaches to your values. You two may be complementary in these areas and could be a good opportunity for growth.
If you feel like your values are being attacked, then be honest about how you’re feeling. Don’t try to hide who you are or what’s important to you just because he may not share the exact same interests as you do.
3. Emotional Support
Virgos can be emotionally reserved. Still, this doesn’t mean that they don’t care deeply about others. They value traditional family structures and seek out lasting relationships to help them feel complete in life.
A Virgo man will want you to be there for him emotionally when he needs it most. He may test you at the beginning of a relationship by seeing how you respond when he’s upset or under stress.
The best thing to do in this situation is to listen. Be present with him rather than trying to solve his problems for him. If you can do that, then he will know that you are a trustworthy and loyal partner.
4. Planning
Virgos love to plan every little detail of their lives out. This is definitely for better AND worse! While they can learn a lot from loosening up, a Virgo man won’t feel comfortable with a completely free spirit.
The Virgo man will test you by seeing what kind of planner you are. He wants to know that he can trust your ability to organize yourself before committing to a relationship.
He may give you a small project such as planning a date night or cooking dinner. He would prefer it if you sent him little updates such as a picture of you at the grocery store. This lets him know that you are taking initiative and he doesn’t have to plan everything for the two of you.
5. Virgo Man Tests Consistency
Virgos are known for their relentless work ethic and perfectionism. These guys will hold themselves to the highest standards possible. They want a partner who is on the same page as them.
A Virgo man may test you by seeing how consistent your actions are throughout a relationship. He wants to know that he can trust you to be there for him when he needs it most.
He will want you to follow through on your promises and do what you say that you’re going to do without fail or complaint. If he notices that you keep making promises that never happen, he will likely hit the road.
6. Communication
Virgos are ruled by Mercury, which is the planet of communication. They enjoy quick, intelligent, and witty banter. It’s actually hard for them to turn these thoughts off!
If a Virgo man is testing you in this area, then he is looking to see how long you can carry a conversation for. He wants to know that you are able to keep up with his quick-paced mind. It’s important to him that there is enough intellect and chemistry between the two of you.
7. Systems Thinking
Since Virgos are constantly thinking about how systems work, they will want to know that you think similarly. If he notices that you struggle with seeing the big picture, he may not feel a connection. He also thinks about how people’s actions affect each other and wants to see a balance of give and take here.
You can pass this test by giving an example of a system in your life (such as the way that you organize your closet or clean up after yourself). If he can see how well thought out these systems are, then he will be pleased.
8. Relationship Compatibility
It’s easy for Virgo men to find something in common with almost anyone. They strive to relate to different types of people. Yet, they have a need for strong compatibility with a long-term partner.
A Virgo man may test you when it comes to compatibility by asking what your thoughts are on politics, spirituality, and money. He may also test compatibility in smaller ways, such as seeing how you react when he suggests a certain movie or restaurant.
He is an earth sign and feels connected with sensuality and physicality. This means that he also wants to know that you’re physically compatible. Your natural scent, the sound of your voice, and your appearance are all very important to him.
The main thing to do in this situation is to relax and keep being yourself! You certainly don’t want to get involved in an incompatible relationship. So let this play out organically.
9. Confrontation
This can be a more manipulative aspect of the Virgo man’s personality. He can be very passive-aggressive when it comes to his own emotions and desires.
He may withhold his personal emotions while pushing your buttons to see how well you do under pressure. Make sure to keep an eye out for this test and confront him if you feel that he might be trying to manipulate the situation.
Don’t worry too much about calling him out for this behavior. Virgos are constantly critical of themselves. They actually appreciate it when others help them with this kind of feedback. A good Virgo man will see this as a growth moment if you point out that he’s trying to stir the pot.
10. Honesty
Virgo men see honesty as the ultimate form of respect and loyalty. They also have a deep need to be “secret masters”, people who can be trusted with others’ deepest, darkest truths.
If he is testing you in this area, then he will ask very intimate questions to see how you’ll respond. He is quick to notice whether you’re giving a polite, disingenuous answer or the whole story.
Remember that the Virgo man will take good care of your deepest secrets. So if you feel safe enough to share them, lean into this test and bare it all!
11. Acts of Service
Virgos and earth signs in general are very much focused on taking action and making progress. They could test you in this area in two ways.
Firstly, they may do lots of favors for you as a way to see how appreciative you’ll be to them. If you give them validation, they will keep helping out.
Secondly, they may test you by asking for you to provide an act of service for them. They may ask for this directly or in a more subtle way, depending on their personality. This could look like them asking you to do some errands for them, or bringing up how very helpful they were when something happened.
12. The Silent Treatment
Another catty way that a Virgo man may test you is by shutting you out with the silent treatment. This can be a very painful test to endure, especially if you’re expressing vulnerability and a willingness to connect.
He is doing this because he is insecure and needs you to take initiative in communication. If you don’t, he’ll feel abandoned.
This may happen during a first or early fight in the relationship. He may even use it as a way to get you to take responsibility for the fight. Do your best to get him to talk, but remember that communication is a two-way highway. If he’s being impossible here, make sure you have a boundary.
13. Priority/Exclusivity
A Virgo man wants to be in a relationship with someone who values them more highly than others. They are committed to putting their relationships first at all times.
If he’s testing how much you prioritize him, he may ask questions such as “are we a team?” or “do you have enough time to spend with me?”
Don’t be afraid to show him how much he means to you. He will appreciate it more than any words can say and these conversations often lead to a deeper relationship.
14. Virgo Man Test Commitment
Finally, the Virgo man wants to be with someone who is loyal and will commit to them. If you’re tested, he may ask about your end goals or life plan. He’ll want to know that you have a solid idea of what the future looks like for both of you.
This test will likely come up when the Virgo man is ready to move from a casual dating phase to a more serious one.
Make sure that you’re honest about your feelings for him. Don’t be afraid to say that you’re not fully committed yet. Virgo men can be a bit overbearing in this area. You have every right to take the relationship slowly and keep your options open.
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If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all these tests, just know that they will become easier in time. As long as both partners communicate what is working well and what isn’t, a Virgo man won’t be too critical or make you jump through too many hoops.
If not, then it may be a sign that things aren’t meant to be. Remember to turn your gaze inward and reflect on your own dating habits. Perhaps you have been guilty of testing a partner too! It happens to us all, and the most important thing is to learn from it.
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